12 STEPS to Recovery — STEP #5
Focus on the Recovery Process
Of all the steps, this one is perhaps the most misunderstood by sincere Christians, who believe admission and/or confession of sin is to be made only to God. Many years ago, an early Adventist church leader wrote: “…many conceal sins of selfishness, overreaching, dishonesty toward God and their neighbor, sins in the family, and many others which it is proper to confess in public.” Signs of the Times, May 5, 1881.
Notice that this step doesn’t specifically mention confession. Admitting “the exact nature of our wrongs” is what is referred to. This will mean revealing answers to not just the ‘what’ question. Where, when, and most importantly, why questions and answers will also be admitted. “Why do I keep doing the wrong?” What are the motives involved in the wrong action and the attempts to deny and justify the wrong?
“Sins that are especially offensive to God” are “pride, selfishness, and covetousness” (see Steps to Christ, p. 30). These sins involve reasons (the whys, the motives) for other more obvious “wrongs.”
For instance, a food addict might mention that they crave and eat candy bars whenever they feel discouraged or feel bad because they made a mistake. Then they might go on to say that this helps them forget their negative feelings. They could also describe various rituals related to their harmful habit, such as maintaining a stash of their favorite candy in various hiding places in their house, car and office. In their admission to God, themselves, and another person, they would most likely include their various attempts to hide, minimize, blame others, and justify their ‘wrongs.’
Two important questions to answer, before sharing wrongs with another human being are: is this the right person and the right time?
Following the instructions in this step will result in freedom from the negative emotions associated with secret sins. As we acknowledge the truth about ourselves and admit our sins and wrongs, we will find freedom from guilt and shame in and through Jesus Christ (see John 8:31-36).